Communication with children has to begin at a young age to be most effective, although it is never too late to form a lasting bond. Most children are usually sensitive and aware and are often born with an innate sense of fairness.
No longer does the Old School of Thought apply to parenting children who now demand and deserve respect. If we look at a child as a soul entering the world in order to accomplish his or her own unique mission, we realize that the best we, as parents, can do is give direction and love. We, in essence, are facilitators, who lead our children through the course of life.
Everyone deals with a myriad of emotions. Sometimes emotions can be very intense and finding a way to control them is important. Both positive and negative emotions need to be expressed in their own way. Dealing with positive emotions can include bonding times with friends and family while coping with negative emotions may need alternative methods.
During the Terrible Twos, most toddlers have intense tantrums. They can throw themselves on the floor for reasons such as not getting their way or as a result of being disciplined. Although anger is a normal reaction at this age and usually part of a child's programming as he or she attempts to become independent, it can be dangerous if out of control.
Helping children learn how to deal with all their emotions will help them gain control as they get older. Parents and caregivers should not give in to a tantrum or an angry fit because a child will quickly learn that this is the way to attain what he or she wants. Experts suggest letting the child calm him or herself down on their own as long as they are not hurting themselves. This will help them learn that this is not an effective way of getting a parent's attention. Encourage them to use their words.
A child should be encouraged to relate as honestly as possible with a parent. A parent that respects a child's boundaries will often share in the child's life. Compassionate listening on the part of the parents is important to help the child find solutions to his or her problems. Always encourage solution-focused suggestions.
"You are upset because you didn't get a part in the play. What can we do about it? Do you want to join a local drama group?"
Keep in mind that these are only suggestions and the child will often make the final decision learning in his or her own way and at his or her own speed. But this type of empathetic listening helps communication with children.
Another way is help a teenager is to encourage journal writing. Ensure the teenager also writes positive entries so that the journal does not encourage him or her to constantly think negatively.
Daily end of the day talks are important to touch base with your child and recognize any forthcoming negativity. If the teenager is upset, this is the time to help him or her talk about their feelings.
Communicating with children requires compassionate listening, encouraging the use of words for expression, and a home where his or her feelings are validated.