Parenting Discipline

How does parenting discipline relate to equality?

Doing homework on Eleanor Roosevelt with my son the other day, I came across these remarks she made at the United Nations on March 27, 1958:

    Where after all do universal human rights begin? In small places, closest to home - so close and so small that they cannot be seen on any map of the world. Yet they are the world of the individual person: The neighborhood he lives in; the school or college he attends; the factory, farm or office where he works. Such are the places where every man, woman, and child seeks equal justice, equal opportunity, equal dignity without discrimination. Unless these rights have meaning there, they have little meaning anywhere. Without concerted citizen action to uphold them close to home, we shall look in vain for progress in the larger world.

After reading this quote, I could not help but think that equality begins not only close to home, but also at home. Each child is a world unto him or herself. Whether a child is an academic scholar, or social and popular, or a computer whiz, equality means that each one is accepted and loved on his or her own merits—no comparisons and no competition.

If we look at each child as a soul upon the earth navigating his or her way through life’s lessons, then there can be no comparisons. Since we, too, are souls navigating through life, we cannot offer more discipline than our own life lessons.

When we see a child that is weak in school, we remind ourselves that perhaps this child has a different task to fulfill. If our child loves the computer, again, we do not know his future, therefore cannot judge his or her actions.

Equality and human rights have to begin at home. They include the following:

  1. Allowing children to air their feelings
  2. Encouraging children to speak their mind
  3. Allowing children to succeed at their own pace
  4. Encouraging children to eat when their body requests food
  5. Allowing children to map out their own future goals
  6. Encouraging children to embrace their uniqueness

If we look at parenting discipline as one soul leading another through the maze of life, we realize that we merely serve as their guide. We learn from our children as much as they learn from us. Parenting, then, is a partnership that states:

“I will lead your soul through life to the best of my ability with the knowledge I have at the present time.”

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